I call it my annual “SHEcation” when I travel solo to a vacation spot of my choice. Normally I choose an all-inclusive resort where I can relax and experience a myriad of spa services.
SHEcations are no longer optional. I spend a lot of time giving myself to others throughout the year. While I love to help people attain their goals, I’ve found that selfless giving requires time to recharge and avoid burnout. I often recharge by taking quiet time to read, reflect and journal, but I also need an extended amount of time away by myself.
As human beings, we tend to consider what everyone else wants. If we do this long enough, we can lose a sense of what we desire for ourselves. In the movie, Runaway Bride, Julia Roberts plays a woman who doesn’t even know how she likes to have her eggs. She’d always assumed the preference of whomever she was dating at the time. It can be like that for some of us.
So when I am on my SHEcations, I assess what I like and enjoy the process of learning more about myself. For example, I’ve discovered that, even though I am not a vegan, I like trying vegan options at restaurants.
I’ve learned to be okay with being alone, not needing background noise such as music or television to act as a stand-in for friends. On most SHEcations I never turn on the television.
I’ve also learned to challenge myself to be still. To silence my busy mind and choose to speak kind words to myself. To be okay with being indecisive. The truth is I would not have discovered so much about myself had I not given myself permission to just be. And that’s what SHEcations are all about–simply being.
So the next time you think about traveling, consider what it might be like to travel alone with yourself as your new best friend!